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Bullying Tips
You
may not realize it but a lot of boys are Irish dancing now. This
dramatic rise in the amount of boys Irish dancing has come about
mainly because of shows like River dance and Lord of the dance. You
may have seen there are a lot of boys in the back line up's and the
troupes. Even though it has become a popular thing to do , lots of
boys around England and other places around the world still get
bullied because of the fact that they Irish dance. I am going to
show you some ways people have dealt with it and how to stay calm
about it. Follow these notes I am about to give you and you should
be fine.
1. When you get to school (the main place the
bullying occurs) try to avoid the main bully's or the ones which are
taunting you and doing the bullying, for example you could do
activity's about the school which the bully doesn't or you could sit
away from the kid in class.
2. When the kid is taunting you it is best to
not say anything back as it may start off a violent argument. It is
best just to let it go through one ear and out the other because
after all that person will probably amount to nothing in life where
as you will probably be in lord of the dance when you are older
earning a lot of money and then go on to teach professionally. I
find that the best way to deal with it is this because the bully can
see it is not bothering you.
3. If the Bully attacks you , you may be forced
to fight which is not a good idea at all. Instead you could walk
away and try to avoid the fight.
4. One thing I recommend in my experience is
tell your parents and friends and maybe even your teachers. My
experience has taught me that teachers don't do anything about the
situation and sometimes make it worse by telling the bully you have
notified the teachers of you getting bullied by them. Parents and
friends help quiet a lot. My friends helped a lot and made me feel
more comfortable and they also gave me a lot of advice. My parents
stood up to the teachers and parents of the bully and really done a
lot to stop the bully's.
Three things you should never do when you are
getting bullied
Tips From Irish Dancers
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Jess :
Irelands Dance
Jess may not be a guy but as you can see she
knows from experience and has some wise words of wisdom
Even
if something someone has said has hurt or upset you, or just plain
made you angry. Do not show it. Remember that the main thing that
will keep comments & bullying going is a reaction. It is difficult
to brush some things off, but just walk away. Then either go
somewhere you know you won’t be seen, or wait till you’re home, and
vent the anger – scream, shout, throw things, punch pillows, even
DANCE! (just don’t break anything!).
Don’t react physically. Sometimes it
can be tempting to smack someone for what they have said to you, but
it doesn’t solve anything. You’ll probably just end up getting in a
fight, and causing more trouble than there was to begin with.
Breathe, count to 10 and calmly say
that you enjoy what you do, you are proud of it, and no-one's going
to stop you doing it, then calmly walk away.
Remember that half the reason people
tease or bully is because they are jealous. The other half is the
fact that the are pathetic, So in both areas – you are better than
them!
Thanks Jess
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This below is by far the best way of dealing
with this I have heard so far.
From:
NTH233@aol.com
My son had a simple solution for this problem. With a couple of
sentences he put to rest the name calling. Some boys were calling
him a fa**ot, and a sissy because he dances. He asked them what they
do that makes them so cool. So you put on a baseball or football or
soccer uniform huh? and get down on the field and roll around in the
dirt with the boys. and that makes you a real guy? I get dressed
nice and go to a feis and stand in front of a stage full of pretty
girls in short skirts. They are all very nice and friendly and
especially like the guys who are good dancers. I enjoy hanging out
with them on the weekends while you're rolling around in the mud
with the boys. Name calling ceased....and the issue hasn't come up
again. Granted he doesn't do jumpovers and clicks down the hall in
school either, but the bullys in school got a different perspective
on dancing....He also runs track and does well in school sports so
the bullying has stopped.
Dancer's mom
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I really like your cite. I think that
it's great that you have this info for the boys, because there's not
a lot out there ob Irish dancing for the boys. One word of advice
for the bullying: don't let a bully trick you into thinking he's
your friend. I'm a girl, but this happened to me a few years back.
I'm not in Irish dance, but I know that boys get stereotypes when
they do things like Irish dance. I will be in Irish dance soon
though, in case you're wondering why I'm looking at an Irish dance
cite and I don't dance. I just know that a bully doesn't change his
or her ways, just tries to get closer to find out more about the
person that they can make fun of. This bully I'm talking about was a
girl I knew in 4th and 5th grade, in American schools. She pretended
to be my friend for a while, and them was a real nasty person. She
chased me down with a stick one day. I'd tell you her name, but I
can't spell it, because it's Japanese.
Slán go fóill,
Alyssa
If you have anymore advice for boys being
bullied email me them at
clickyfeet@hotmail.com , we are
always looking for more tips so don't worry what your tips on
bullying are like they can be as funny as serious or as stupid as
you want as long as they make sense, then they will be displayed
here (",)
Thank you
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